by gemma | Sep 4, 2014 | goals & dreams, health & happiness, love & fear, meaningful & life lessons, mind & brain, relationships & sex, self love & self esteem, thoughts & musings, tools & strategies
After more than a decade of helping hundreds of clients love themselves and their lives you could say that Love is my quest. The most important lesson I have learned is to choose love over fear. Again and again. The rules of love and fear can be found in a tangle of...
by gemma | Jul 23, 2014 | gems & precious bits, health & happiness, love & fear, meaningful & life lessons, relationships & sex, self love & self esteem, self sabotage & stuckness, thoughts & musings
Self-examination does not necessarily lead to life balance or acceptance from others — it leads to greater freedom and authenticity. Without self-examination … … we seek comfort over greatness … safety over risk … reassurance over authenticity … the predictable over...
by gemma | Jul 8, 2014 | health & happiness, love & fear, relationships & sex, self love & self esteem, self sabotage & stuckness, thoughts & musings
These days I’m thinking a lot about the conditions we put on love. When my boys hug each other, I smile and offer a loving gaze. When they are less kind {hitting} my smile and loving gaze quickly disappear — I withdraw the visual expression of my love. My boys quickly...
by gemma | Jun 30, 2014 | gems & precious bits, health & happiness, inspiration & wisdom, love & fear, meaningful & life lessons, mind & brain, self love & self esteem, thoughts & musings
We are wired to seek pleasure. We are wired to avoid pain. Everything we are and everything we do is based on these two principles — the decisions we make, the thoughts we think, the actions we take. Freud, one of my fathers, said we may lay it down that...
by gemma | Jun 17, 2014 | goals & dreams, health & happiness, inspiration & wisdom, interviews & media love, love & fear, meaningful & life lessons, relationships & sex, self love & self esteem, self sabotage & stuckness, thoughts & musings
For a long time I didn’t love myself. I tried to cover up my lack of self-love by winning awards, being the captain, and by being a good little over-achiever. I was an expert in the fine art of perception management. I was a chameleon. I would change myself to fit...
by gemma | Apr 5, 2013 | beloved & praised, gems & precious bits, goals & dreams, health & happiness, inspiration & wisdom, self love & self esteem, thoughts & musings
{the inspiration for the celebration} I lived in a small village in rural Guyana where the entire community gathered their drinking and washing water from a hole in the ground. This community was generous to host myself and a group of do-gooding youth, but our...
